A Muslim woman has written a taboo-busting guide to “mind-blowing sex” that offers candid advice to women with an Islamic emphasis.
The author, who goes by the alias Umm Muladhat having chosen to remain anonymous, told the Guardian that the idea for the book, “The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex” came after a friend, a newlywed, confided in her about her disastrous sex life.
“I saw many Muslim women were getting married with no real avenue for learning about sex,” she said. “Couples knew ‘penis into vagina’, but little on how to spice up their sex life. Different positions, different things to try in bed – it’s all absent in contemporary Islamic literature. For those in the west, certain things permeate through osmosis, so women have heard about BDSM and doggy style, but only in a vague sense.”
Umm Muladhat says the book focuses on a message that encourages Muslim women to enjoy and take pleasure in a varied sex life and initiate intimacy. Chapter headings include “5 myths about Muslim sex,” “how to do a strip-tease,” “what to say during sex”,”humping,” and “how to be a freak in bed.
The author said she “put an emphasis on having sex only with your spouse, but having the full range of sexual experiences with that spouse. Islamically, there’s an emphasis on enjoying physical relationships within the context of marriage, not just for procreation. It is the wife’s right that her husband satisfy her sexually.”
“I didn’t find any guides to sex aimed at Muslims, women or otherwise. There are plenty of books already on marriage, but spicing up a Muslim’s sex life while staying halal? There’s nothing,” she added.
The author chose to remain anonymous, revealing only that she is American-born with a degree in psychology, for fear of backlash and because of the sensitivity of the subject matter.
“Initially, I thought my real name would add credibility, but it’s a sensitive topic,” said Muladhat. “Whether it’s ethnicity, socioeconomic status or religiosity, people who want to attack the book will invariably do so by attacking the author. By separating my real self from the book, people are forced to deal with the content.”
Umm Muladhat said she’d received “encouraging feedback, but also a significant number of demeaning and disgusting messages.”
“One woman said it’s not needed, they learn everything from their mothers. I doubt any mother speaks in as explicit detail as I have,” she explained.
Nonetheless, the author is considering a follow-up to the sex book after being inundated with messages from men asking for advice on sex.
“I’ve received dozens of emails from men asking if I had any plans to write a companion book to teach them how to please their wives in bed. I’ve taken that into consideration and plan to write a follow-up if this book is successful.”