Interview with the Abu Dhabi woman who wants to be a man

From the age of just five, Reem knew she was different from other children. Born into a conservative family in Abu Dhabi, the Emirati said she loved playing with boys’ toys and would dress as a boy.

Speaking exclusively to 7DAYS after she had applied for gender reassignment to an Abu Dhabi court, Reem (who asked for her real name not to be used), said: “I have been struggling with this issue since I was five years old.

“I have always felt like a man trapped in the wrong body. It’s not just something that I have felt recently.

“However, I was nervous and didn’t know how to speak about it. I didn’t know what to do or what’s going wrong.”

Reem applied this week for gender reassignment to an Abu Dhabi court, following the introduction of new medical legislation several weeks ago.

The Emirati has submitted a series of medical documents and physical examinations that she claims shows her testosterone levels are similar to that of a man. But she also said psychologically and emotionally, she no longer wishes to be a woman.

Reem’s lawyer, Ali Mohammed Al Mansouri, said his client has undergone six medical tests to show her testosterone levels are similar to that of a man.

Describing her childhood, Reem said that despite being an introverted girl, she said the real crisis came when she hit puberty, and began to develop as a woman.


“When I had my first period, I was shocked and then later on depressed,” she added. “It was at that time I realised there’s something wrong going on in my body. I had grown up thinking I would be a man.”

She described going through difficult time in her teens. Reem said she would pencil a beard onto her face, longing to develop as a man.

“I used to sit alone in school all the time,” she said. “I was an introverted person.”

On reaching the age of 20, she found her own diagnosis matched with a series of conditions, including gender dysphoria. Reem said: “I read about what is called ‘gender dysphoria’. Many medical studies and doctors explained this disorder.”

Until then, she had never told her parents of her struggle. And when she did, they were not sympathetic.

Reem said: “I spoke to my family and described how I felt. I showed them all the medical documents that I had got from medical centres and doctors.

‘My parents didn’t accept it at all’

“However, they didn’t accept what I was dealing with at all.”

She left her family home and has lived on her own ever since. She said that she considered suicide for a long time. But Reem, who described herself as devout, prayed for help.

She said: “I found a number of muftis who said this operation is allowed for people with specific medical conditions. And I have been undergoing psychological treatment since 2012.”

Reem said her condition is a difficult one to explain to people in the UAE.

Today, Reem works in a government institute and wears an abaya. Underneath, she wears men’s clothes and keeps her hair cut short.

Through research, she discovered that gender reassignment surgery is common in many countries. She said: “I felt the urge to contact a lawyer and present my case to him.

“I told my lawyer, Ali Al Mansouri, to look into my medical documents and then to decide whether to accept the case or not. He examined the documents and he accepted to carry on.”


Reem said that she would not undergo any kind of surgery – which is likely to be abroad – without permission from a court in Abu Dhabi.

Aside from her desire to be recognised as a man in the eyes of the law, she would need a new passport. Reem also said she wishes to marry a woman one day, when the treatment is finished.

Reem is hopeful the court will grant her permission, which would be a landmark move.

She said: “Imagine if you were a cancer patient and you had to have treatment and all those around you are preventing you.

“I wish if people could put themselves in my shoes and imagine how I wake up every day wishing if I am a man.”

If the court approves, Reem hopes to undergo an operation, possibly in the United States.

The case is due to continue on September 28.


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